A successful and happy marriage is more than romance. The three building blocks to a successful marriage or relationship involve open dialoguing, vulnerability, and trust.
It takes a lot of work to communicate without nagging or discounting your partner. To compromise and learn to respect your partner’s needs can be difficult, especially at the beginning of the relationship when you are starting to understand your partner’s likes and dislikes.
Naturally, we expect to trust our partner but what does trust really mean in relationships. Most couples equate trust with fidelity. Trust is more than just being emotionally and physically faithful. It is about nurturing and growing together in your relationship. Trust is about honoring your words and following through with actions. Respecting boundaries, providing help, and feeling reassured they will always love you no matter what job or how much money you make during the year.
Vulnerability is the hardest component to master because it encompasses both open dialogue and trust. In order to be vulnerable, we have to trust that our partner will provide empathy and understanding. Most couples do a great job of talking about their children, the household, activities, vacations, extended families, even the weather, but when it comes to talking about their relationship the conversation quickly fades into silence. We are often fearful our partner will reject or abandon us when we share our true feelings about our needs. Many people think it is better to sweep unpleasant feelings or thoughts under the rug or stuff it down deep inside. It is always important to be transparent with your partner and talk about your life and relationship openly. This creates an unbreakable bond and brings you closer to one another.
It’s also important to keep your faith strong and vibrant. The deeper your relationship with God, the more motivation you’ll have to love and cherish one another. Faith produces gracious attitudes and kind behavior, and a good sense of humor does not hurt either.
Marriage is not easy, it takes two people who are ready to work together and combining their efforts into making a marriage work. One needs to constantly be mindful of their words and actions and make sure that their partner is comfortable. There is no room for ego and superiority in a marriage, both partners are equally in it and are equally responsible for their marriage to work.